Disclaimer: This post is directed towards the men who are
Also, what I talk about in this post really goes both for dudes and chicks, I just see it happen way more often to guys.
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Girls piss me off sometimes.. The ones that don't appreciate the courage it takes for a man to approach her. Time and time again, whether at a bar, a club, a coffee shop, school, or wherever, I've seen guys get turned down, rejected, or straight up ignored. I mean, of course by approaching someone you are taking the risk of getting rejected... that's a given. But what I don't like is when chicks rudely and ignorantly turn someone down, when they take for granted that someone thinks they are attractive, appealing in some way, interesting... or that someone is willing to take the risk of getting rejected just to talk to them.
I give major props to the guys out there who have the courage to try to spark a random conversation with a woman, ask for a dance, or shoot, ask to buy them a drink. I mean, come on! Someone is wanting to spend money on you... someone is asking you if they could buy you a drink! Be thankful and appreciative that someone wants to do this for you. Don't act annoyed or rude. By no means am I saying fake it and accept their approach, let them buy you a drink, dance with them or give them your number. If you're not interested, that is totally fine! All I am saying is act, and more importantly, actually be, appreciative, honored and flattered. If you aren't interested in them... all you have to do is so say in a nice and humble way. You don't even have to make up an excuse for not being interested. All I am saying is... be thankful and act/be gracious to whoever is willing to take the risk of getting rejected... for you.
I have a few guy friends who refuse to approach a female. I always tell them, "who cares, just go talk to her. Be cool and a gentleman and it's all good!" They'd say that girls get approached all the time and all they do is turn guys away, and that they refused to be one of them. They'd say, "if a girl wanted to talk to me, then she could come up to me." I, honestly, don't blame guys for feeling/thinking this way. I think we've all witnessed men getting ignored or rudely rejected.. so who really could blame them?
Women don't realize how much power they have over men. Or how easily they could make a guy feel humiliated, not good enough, not attractive enough, etc. Knowing this, we could find ways to make a point to tell them that we are not interested, but in a way that doesn't ruin their night or make them feel insecure about themselves.
And ya know what? The people who are mean, rude, unappreciative... they will get theirs.
In the long run, mean girls finish last. In the long run, nice girls finish first.
Cliff Note Equations:
Bitchy girls= Bitchy karma
Nice girls= Nice karma
(It's that simple)