"Try to make him jealous... trust me, he'll come crawling back to you." "Screw her! You deserve better than that &^%$." "She's too immature and unappreciative for you, you deserve better." "Just go hook up with someone else, it'll help you get over him."
I hear people all the time giving each other "this" type of advice on how to get revenge on an ex-boyfriend/ex-girlfriend. And, well....
I can guarantee that the above statements will not help you get over someone. If anything, that way of thinking will only put a band-aide over the wound... and on top of that, it's no way of working towards being the best person you can be. I don't care if someone has cheated on you or a friend has betrayed you... never wish someone bad. The sweetest revenge is doing the exact opposite -- it's sincerely wishing them the best and then bidding farewell.
I'm not saying this is easy... In fact, this is extremely hard to do. We are human, we are not perfect... When we are hurt, rejected or betrayed by someone else, our defenses automatically come up and we want the other person to feel what we are feeling. We become angry, resentful, and revengeful.
It takes maturity, faith, a damn good heart, and a wise mind to wish someone the best even if they hurt or betrayed you.
You want to get over someone with dignity? You want to get the absolute sweetest revenge?
Wish them the best, truly... and then...
move the hell on.
